How well do you know me? 40 Diwali questions for couples and siblings

The best how well do you know me questions give four answers to choose from. One player picks an answer in secret, the other guesses from the same four, and every match is a point. Below are 40 of them with a Diwali flavour. Thirty are for couples, siblings, best friends or family, and ten suit any pair. You’ll also find rules for playing on paper and the title the game gives each score.

They come from Jodi Check, one of the two games in Chakri, the free Diwali party game we make at 9io. Chakri runs at chakri.9io.ai on one phone passed between the players. In Jodi Check the phone hides the answers, lights a diya on a rangoli for every match and draws a card to share at the end. As of 29 October 2026 it has 82 questions, and these are the 40 we’d start with.

Each question in the game has two wordings. We quote the one the answerer sees. The guesser gets a version about the answerer, with their name in it.

How to play with two people and no app

You need two players, these questions and something to write on. Choose the kind of jodi first. Each kind has its own set of questions, and all four share a set for everyone. Counts are as of 29 October 2026.

Then play it the way the app does.

1. Pick 12 questions, five from your jodi’s set and seven from the questions for everyone.
2. Split them into two rounds of six. In the first round, player one answers and player two guesses.
3. Player one reads the six questions and writes down an answer to each where player two can’t see. A word or two from the option is enough.
4. Read each question aloud to player two with player one’s name in it, as in “The mithai box opens. Riya’s hand goes straight to…”, along with the four options. Player two picks one.
5. Player one shows the written answer. A match scores a point.
6. Swap for the second round with the other six questions, so player two answers and player one guesses.
7. Add the two rounds together for a score out of 12.

Write all six answers before the first guess. The app works the same way. You can go back and change an answer while you’re answering, but once the phone is passed the answers are fixed.

Scores and their mithai titles

Jodi Check turns the total into one of six titles. Three are named after mithai, from kaju katli near the top down to soan papdi, the box that gets passed from house to house every Diwali. Each title comes with a line on the result screen.

The result screen also scores each direction out of 6, so you can see who knows whom better. The guesser of the higher-scoring round wins bragging rights, and a tie gets “Dead even. Bragging rights are shared.” In the app, 7 or more brings fireworks over the result screen, and 10 or more a longer show.

Couple quiz questions for Diwali

The Couple set is for partners, newlyweds and the newly engaged. When the guesser plays, the app rewrites each question about the answerer, and turns it around where it needs to. “Your ideal Diwali night with your partner?” reaches the guesser as “Riya’s ideal Diwali night with you?” Read them that way on paper too. They work at home, or at a party as one of the Diwali couple games everyone else can watch.

1. Your ideal Diwali night with your partner? Dressed up, party-hopping · Home, lights, takeout · Cards with friends till late · Rooftop fireworks, just us
2. Matching Diwali outfits with your partner: your stance? Yes! Colour-coordinated · Never. Separate identities. · Accidentally, every year · Only for the photos
3. Diwali at whose family’s place? Your honest pick. My family’s, obviously · My partner’s. Better food. · Half a day at each · Neither. Our own place.
4. Diwali with your partner’s relatives. The questions start. Your strategy? Full charm. Namaste to all. · Glued to my partner · Hide in the kitchen “helping” · Play with the kids and the dog
5. Buying your partner a Diwali gift. Your approach? Planned for months · Decoded from their hints · Panic-bought on the way · An experience, not a thing
6. A box of kaju katli arrives. Your sharing plan? Exactly half each · Hide some first, then share · Eat it all, deny everything · Last piece goes to them
7. The most romantic thing your partner could do at Diwali? Light the diyas together · Fireworks from the roof · A handwritten card · Do every dish. Unasked.
8. Time to leave the Diwali party. Your signal to your partner? The Look · A secret code word · Loud, theatrical yawning · Already waiting in the car
9. What do you two bicker about most? The AC temperature · Running late. Again. · Where to eat · Phones at dinner

Bhai Dooj games: a sibling quiz

Diwali falls on Sunday 8 November 2026,¹ and Bhai Dooj follows two or three days later, depending on which calendar you read. PublicHolidays.in lists Wednesday 11 November,² and Drik Panchang gives the same date for New Delhi.³ Drik Panchang works its dates out for the city you choose, though, and for New York it puts Bhai Dooj on Tuesday 10 November.⁴ Outside India, check a calendar set to your own city.

In Chakri the Siblings set is marked “Bhai Dooj ready”. These eight cover Bhai Dooj gifts and growing up together, and each one works whichever sibling is answering.

10. Bhai Dooj gift from your sibling. Secretly, you want… Cash. Just cash. · Something they made · A mountain of chocolate · A week of my chores, done
11. Your budget for your sibling’s Bhai Dooj or Rakhi gift? Generous, every year · Depends on their behaviour · Last year’s gift, re-wrapped · Paid for by our parents
12. Your sibling forgets your Bhai Dooj gift. Your move? Bring it up. Forever. · “It’s fine.” (It isn’t.) · Relieved. Forgot theirs too. · Send a payment request
13. Growing up, the family favourite was… The eldest. No contest. · The youngest. Obviously. · Whoever had better marks · Neither. Equal scolding.
14. Your childhood fights with your sibling were mostly about… The TV remote · The window seat · Who ate the last laddoo · Who started it (them)
15. Your favourite firecracker as a kid? Sparklers (phuljhadi) · Chakri, spinning wildly · Anaar, the fountain · Rockets from a bottle
16. As a kid, your Diwali money from relatives went… Saved. Every last bit. · Spent by sundown · To Mom, “for safekeeping” · Lent to my sibling. Still waiting.
17. Raiding the mithai box before guests arrive. Your technique? Rearrange to hide the gap · One from each row · Blame my sibling · No technique. Just chaos.

Best friend quiz questions

The app describes the Best friends set as “Friends since forever”. Six of these seven are set at Diwali, so they work as a best friend quiz at the party itself.

18. Invited to a friend’s Diwali party. You show up with… Homemade mithai · Shop mithai, in my own box · Chips and cold drinks · Just my fabulous self
19. Borrowing clothes from friends for Diwali. Your record? Returned, dry-cleaned · Still have it. Oops. · Never borrow, never lend · Lend mine, never see it again
20. Planning the Diwali meetup in the group chat. You’re the one… Making the poll · Saying “I’m in!”, then ghosting · Reacting with emojis only · Debating the date for days
21. Diwali at a friend’s place. Aunty keeps feeding you. Your move? Eat it all, ask for more · Leave with a packed tiffin · “Bas, Aunty!” (Fails.) · Compliment every single dish
22. Diwali night with your friends ends at… Midnight. Responsibly. · 3 a.m., still talking · Sunrise, with chai · 10 p.m. I’m old now.
23. The friends’ Diwali gift swap. Your gift is… Thoughtful, wrapped beautifully · A candle. Always a candle. · Funny and completely useless · Grabbed at the corner shop
24. A friend tells you a secret. How safe is it? Locked away forever · Told to exactly one person · Forgotten in two days · Safe… until a hint slips out

Family questions for parents, in-laws and cousins

The Family set is for a parent and kid, in-laws or cousins. It suits a grandparent and grandchild too. Each question works in both directions, so a grandmother can answer and her grandson guess, or the other way round.

25. At the family Diwali party, you dodge the relative who… Gives career advice, unasked · Compares everyone’s kids · Tells the same story yearly · Wants me to sing. Again.
26. Family Diwali dinner. Your seat? Right next to the food · Kids’ table, forever · Head of the table · Seat? I’m serving.
27. Diwali shopping with the family. Your job? Bargaining, fiercely · Carrying all the bags · Wandering off, getting lost · Paying. Sigh.
28. Your secret Diwali food habit? Mithai before the meal · Best sweet saved for last · 2 a.m. fridge visits · Tasting while “helping” cook
29. Your favourite childhood Diwali memory? Crackers with the cousins · Nani’s or Dadi’s house · New clothes, first thing · Staying up for the cards
30. How do you say “I love you” in this family? “Did you eat?” · Sneaking extra mithai onto plates · Fixing things, silently · Actually saying it

Questions for everyone

These ten work for any pair. A game of 12 takes seven of its questions from this set, so mix some of them in with the ones for your jodi.

31. The mithai box opens. Your hand goes straight to… Kaju katli, obviously · Gulab jamun, syrup and all · Motichoor laddoo · Soan papdi (someone has to)
32. Someone gifts you a box of soan papdi. Its fate? Re-gifted within 24 hours · Eaten. Proudly. · Still in the cupboard next Diwali · Passed on to the neighbours
33. The pre-Diwali deep clean begins. Your role? Supervising, with opinions · On the ladder, scrubbing fans · Suddenly very busy that week · Secretly throwing old stuff out
34. Putting up the Diwali lights. Your style? More is more. Blink it all. · Warm, classy, minimal · Diyas only. Old school. · Two hours untangling them
35. Someone steps on the fresh rangoli. Your reaction? Quietly fix it · Find the culprit. Now. · It’s modern art now · The foot was mine
36. The Diwali party starts at 7. You walk in at… 6:45, helping set up · 7:30, fashionably late · 9, with a solid excuse · Whenever the food comes out
37. The host drops a fourth laddoo on your plate. Next? Eat it. Respect. · Act full. Award-worthy. · Slip it into a napkin · Ask for the recipe instead
38. Diwali in the family group chat. Your role? Forwarder-in-chief · Silent reader · Fact-checker of forwards · Muted it years ago
39. Diwali card-party night. Your playing style? Bluff on every hand · Fold, fold, fold · Here for the snacks · Win big, leave early
40. What’s guaranteed to make you cry? Those emotional Diwali ads · Old family videos · Every movie ending · Onions. Only onions.

Why our how well do you know me questions are multiple choice

With an open question, someone has to decide whether a guess counts. Ask “What’s Kabir’s favourite sweet?”, and the guesser might say “something with cashews” when Kabir wrote “kaju katli”. Jodi Check asks the same thing as “The mithai box opens. Your hand goes straight to…” and offers four sweets. We gave every question four fixed answers for this reason. The guesser picks from the same four options the answerer saw, so a match means both chose the same one, and nobody has to rule on it. In the app that’s one tap to answer and one to guess, and the answer shows a moment later, so a game of 12 keeps moving.

Fixed options carry the jokes as well. “Someone gifts you a box of soan papdi. Its fate?” works because “Still in the cupboard next Diwali” sits on the list next to “Eaten. Proudly.”, and the guesser has to decide which one the other person would admit to.

Four options also give you a baseline. A blind guess matches one time in four, so a guesser picking at random would average 3 out of 12 (12 × 1/4), which is a “Same Wi-Fi, different worlds” score. On the same assumption, the chance of 7 or more matches is about 1.4%, or one game in 70 (the binomial sum for 7 to 12 matches), and the chance of all 12 is one in 16,777,216 (4 multiplied by itself 12 times). The sums assume every guess is a blind pick from four, so they show what luck alone would score.

Jodi Check on one phone

In Chakri the phone does the hiding and the scoring. It’s free and runs in the phone’s browser at chakri.9io.ai. There’s nothing to install and no sign-up, and nothing leaves the phone. It went live on 29 October 2026, in English with a switch for Hinglish.

You choose the jodi and type two names. The first player answers six questions while the screen tells the second to look away. Then the phone goes to the guesser, who sees each question rewritten about the first player, so “Someone gifts you a box of soan papdi. Its fate?” becomes “Someone gifts Riya a box of soan papdi. Its fate?” The answer appears a moment after each guess. A match lights one of the 12 diyas around the rangoli, and a miss leaves its diya dark.

Halfway through, the game shows the first score and asks you to swap. At the end you get the total out of 12, the title from the table above, how many each of you got right about the other, and who wins bragging rights. The share button draws a 1080 × 1920 card, sized for a story, with your names, the rangoli, the score and the title. You can send it through the phone’s share sheet or WhatsApp, save the image or copy a line of text.

A rematch on the same phone mostly gets new questions. The game remembers the last 48 questions it asked there and puts them at the back of the queue. Switch to Hinglish and the mithai question reads “Mithai ka dabba khula. Haath seedha kahan?”

For a bigger group, Chakri also has a truth or dare game for 2 to 12 players, and we’ve written up Diwali truth or dare questions separately. There’s more about the whole game in Chakri, our Diwali party game.

Writing your own: the rules ours follow

Use these as a checklist if you write your own. Every Jodi Check question meets all six, and the game’s tests check the first four in English and Hinglish.

• Four options, all different.
• Short enough for a phone screen. Our questions stay within 90 characters with a 10-letter name in place, and options within 34.
• Two wordings, a “you” version that names nobody and a version for the guesser with the answerer’s name in it.
• In Hinglish, no verb forms that change with the player’s gender, such as karoge and karogi, so one line suits everyone.
• It works whichever person in the pair is answering, so a family question suits the parent and the kid alike.
• It keeps to the social side of Diwali, the food, the sweets, the lights and the relatives, so anyone who celebrates the season can play.

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